Excerpts from the Introduction

Part one covers all aspects of dating; guiding you to some of the places you can meet eligible people who share similar interests with you.

When you feel you are attracted to someone, Love is No Guarantee walks you through the steps you must take before you fall in love; yes, that's right, before you fall in love.  Even when you believe you've found the right person, you will have to take steps to make certain “what you see is what you are getting.”

For example, I've heard men complain they fell in love with women they met in a work environment. These men were attracted to and sought women who held interesting jobs and led socially stimulating lives. Imagine the surprise to those who married these women, only to discover that their wives want to give up their careers to become stay-at-home moms. Usually the relationship becomes strained because the men may feel they have been misled. Likewise, a man who is financially well off may marry a career woman but secretly plans to convince her to give up her career and become a housewife or a “trophy” wife.

When you do decide to choose someone you believe may be right for you, this guide suggests ways to confirm your initial feeling. You will be able to determine if, in fact, you can share a life together. These steps are relatively simple to follow, yet many people bypass them only to have regrets later. Remember, to enjoy a fulfilling relationship even with someone you love, you must share compatibility in the important areas of your life. You'll stand a better chance of understanding your partner if you both share similar values, personal habits, and opinions. You don't have to agree on everything; being in total agreement with your partner at all times can produce boredom in the relationship. In fact, even on some important matters, you can have different opinions. But at least you should see eye-to-eye in matters critical to your day-to-day existence.  

For example, if you grew up in a wealthy family and have always appreciated, enjoyed, and looked forward to the finer conveniences of life, you may have difficulty living with a mate whose philosophy is to live on the bare necessities, especially if he or she believes accumulation of wealth is immoral. However, your relationship may still survive if you vote Republican and your partner is a staunch Democrat.

Love is No Guarantee explains what men and women want from each other in a relationship and how you can determine what your prospective partner expects from a relationship with you. Being aware of each other's expectations gives each person a clear picture about the other's willingness and ability to meet his or her needs.

When you are reasonably satisfied that the mate you chose is “the one” and you decide to formalize your relationship, Part Two provides valuable tips to make your relationship a success. This may be even more important than it seems because the challenges we face on a day-to-day basis can cause us to neglect our relationships.  And by the time we realize our mistake, it might be too late to repair any damage caused.

You will learn:

• What men really want
• What women really want
• How to tell if your partner truly loves you
• How to maintain love and intimacy while raising a family
• How to communicate your most intimate needs to your partner
• How to maintain a satisfying sexual relationship with the one you love
• How to deal with in-laws without loosing your hair
• The reasons why love dies

Love is No Guarantee teaches you to recognize signs that indicate potential trouble spots in your relationship before they get out of hand. 

Each relationship has its own problems but many share similarities.  It is my wish that you use the knowledge and experiences gained from others to seek solutions that can benefit you.  It is my sincere hope that you can sit back, look at your own situation, and ask yourself whether your beliefs, expectations, and actions so far have worked for you.  If so, congratulations!  If not, you may want to adopt some of the practical applications outlined in this book to improve your own relationship.

This book is for people who want to find peace and happiness in their love relationship.